Why do so many people who’re attracted to fetishism fight those often overwhelming instincts? The answer’s not complicated, from a lay person’s point of view. It has a great deal to do with the misguided belief that, somehow, having a fetish is socially unacceptable and frowned upon by the majority.

Reality, however, paints a different (and encouragingly positive) picture of the fetish lifestyle.

Fetishes: Positive Findings

Interestingly, a large body of research exists to back up the theory that there’s a degree of fetish fixation in most of us. In other words, a large proportion of the population is actually hot-wired to indulge in fetishistic behaviours and really only doing what comes naturally.

Fetishes: A Positive Shift in Attitude

Why, therefore, aren’t we more prepared to accept our fetishes as a positive aspect of our every day life and relationships? Why don’t we do as nature clearly intended? The benefits are patent and include, not least, inhibition release and being true to ourselves, not to mention revving up our sex lives.

Ironically, however, a fetish by its very definition is unnatural, contrived and, artificial; it’s also in the eyes of many, a departure from the accepted sexual norms of society. In short, this may go a long way to explaining why so many of us are scared of doing as nature intended; we simply don’t want to rock the social boat.

Cause & Effect

Contemporary thinking has conceded that there’s no simple explanation for the prevalence (yet, denial) of fetishism in modern society. Many experts agree, however, that fetishistic patterns are often established in childhood and are generally triggered by a one-off, strong emotional experience.

A number of recent studies into the root ‘causes’ of fetishism have also identified specific neuron firing patterns in the brain and a genetic pre-disposition to becoming a fetishist, in a large percentage of the population.

Clearly, with the weight of evidence pointing to the positives related to a fetish lifestyle, wouldn’t it be better to shake off those social and sexual inhibitions and just go with the flow? Let’s be clear about this; fetishism is fine, provided of course, we’re harming no-one and participating in fetish-related activities with consenting, like-minding adults?


There’s really no need, in the twenty-first century, for the fetishist to live two separate lives; much better for people to accept the positives of fetishism and to use them to improve their relationships, sex lives and general sense of wellbeing.

After all, having a fetish is really no big deal. In fact, it has numerous positives.