Swinging Lifestyle Etiquette
Successful Swinging & Swinger Etiquette
Do the positives of swinging outweigh the negatives?
As with any other activity that challenges societal norms and explores beyond the accepted boundaries of conventional thinking, there are going to be potential problems as well as benefits. In this respect, swinging is no different from any other form of social activity.
Potential Positives & Negatives of Swinging
Positives: Potential positives of swinging include: meeting other like-minded people in a fun, social setting; controlled sexual gratification; the opportunity for couples to strengthen existing stable relationships; self-empowerment; no-strings attached experimentation with sexual orientation; making lasting friendships.
Negatives: Potential lifestyle negatives include: jealousy, emotional distress; relationship breakdown (particularly if already in a failing relationship); sexual confusion; alienation from everyday life norms.
Swingers Etiquette: The Lowdown
Some people are naturally suited to the lifestyle; others might benefit from boning up on a few basics, before embarking upon the swingers’ scene.
Here’s how to get a head-start; stick to the following ground rules and you won’t go far wrong:
Swingers’ Clubs: Ground Rules
Whenever swingers get together in clubs, events, at organised gatherings or in the informal environment of each others’ homes, lifestyle lovers tend to follow a few simple, often unspoken ‘rules’, where swingers’ etiquette is concerned.
Politeness is paramount and swingers are always expected to be tactful, yet firm and respectful, for example, when wishing to decline.
Some couples may also have their own set of private/personal codes, e.g. gestures or phrases to signal negative or positive feelings.
Swingers Dos & Don’ts
Dos
1. Do take your time to get know your fellow swingers; chat, casually, as you would in any other social setting; introduce yourself to others.
2. Do familiarise yourself with your surroundings; relax.
3. Do be polite, courteous and non-judgemental, at all times.
4. Do feel free to discuss your lifestyle preferences and decline any approaches with which you’re uncomfortable.
5. Do be prepared to accept rejection; it happens all the time, on the swingers’ scene.
Don'ts
1. Don’t join the swinging community if you’re hoping to recover a failing relationship; it will only make matters worse!
2. Don’t do anything against your will, simply to keep the peace with your partner.
3. Don’t be pushy or overbearing and don’t rush into any swinging activities until you’re ready.
4. Don’t have unrealistic expectations; if you’re new to swinging, ask questions; above all, be open and honest.
5. Don’t take rejection, personally; acknowledge, graciously, and move on.
Swingers’ Top Tip
Decide, in advance, which type of swinging appeals to you and your partner (e.g. soft swinging, open swinging or closed swinging); establish joint ground rules and boundaries and stick to them.
Max Out the Lifestyle Positives!
Accentuate the positive; eliminate the negative and … DO mess with Mr in between!
Swingers who adopt a realistic and practical approach to their expectations, can easily turn negatives into positives, thus minimising the possible downside of the swingers’ lifestyle.
Do the positives of swinging outweigh the negatives?
As with any other activity that challenges societal norms and explores beyond the accepted boundaries of conventional thinking, there are going to be potential problems as well as benefits. In this respect, swinging is no different from any other form of social activity.
Potential Positives & Negatives of Swinging
Positives: Potential positives of swinging include: meeting other like-minded people in a fun, social setting; controlled sexual gratification; the opportunity for couples to strengthen existing stable relationships; self-empowerment; no-strings attached experimentation with sexual orientation; making lasting friendships.
Negatives: Potential lifestyle negatives include: jealousy, emotional distress; relationship breakdown (particularly if already in a failing relationship); sexual confusion; alienation from everyday life norms.
Swingers Etiquette: The Lowdown
Some people are naturally suited to the lifestyle; others might benefit from boning up on a few basics, before embarking upon the swingers’ scene.
Here’s how to get a head-start; stick to the following ground rules and you won’t go far wrong:
Swingers’ Clubs: Ground Rules
Whenever swingers get together in clubs, events, at organised gatherings or in the informal environment of each others’ homes, lifestyle lovers tend to follow a few simple, often unspoken ‘rules’, where swingers’ etiquette is concerned.
Politeness is paramount and swingers are always expected to be tactful, yet firm and respectful, for example, when wishing to decline.
Some couples may also have their own set of private/personal codes, e.g. gestures or phrases to signal negative or positive feelings.
Swingers Dos & Don’ts
Dos
1. Do take your time to get know your fellow swingers; chat, casually, as you would in any other social setting; introduce yourself to others.
2. Do familiarise yourself with your surroundings; relax.
3. Do be polite, courteous and non-judgemental, at all times.
4. Do feel free to discuss your lifestyle preferences and decline any approaches with which you’re uncomfortable.
5. Do be prepared to accept rejection; it happens all the time, on the swingers’ scene.
Don'ts
1. Don’t join the swinging community if you’re hoping to recover a failing relationship; it will only make matters worse!
2. Don’t do anything against your will, simply to keep the peace with your partner.
3. Don’t be pushy or overbearing and don’t rush into any swinging activities until you’re ready.
4. Don’t have unrealistic expectations; if you’re new to swinging, ask questions; above all, be open and honest.
5. Don’t take rejection, personally; acknowledge, graciously, and move on.
Swingers’ Top Tip
Decide, in advance, which type of swinging appeals to you and your partner (e.g. soft swinging, open swinging or closed swinging); establish joint ground rules and boundaries and stick to them.
Max Out the Lifestyle Positives!
Accentuate the positive; eliminate the negative and … DO mess with Mr in between!
Swingers who adopt a realistic and practical approach to their expectations, can easily turn negatives into positives, thus minimising the possible downside of the swingers’ lifestyle.
