People Best Suited to Swinging
According to The North American Swing Club Association (NASCA) International, the types of characters best suited to swinging are ‘those who want more than just one bite of the apple’.
In other words, the types of people who enjoy swinging are, typically, established couples in steady relationships, but who also want to experiment openly with the possibilities of a non-monogamous lifestyle.
Swingers’ Personality Traits
In practice, it’s impossible to categorise the types of characters and personalities that are best suited to the lifestyle. The swinging scene is as diverse as life itself; it represents a microcosm of society, in general.
However, certain character traits would appear to dominate the swingers’ scene. The types of characters who seem best suited to swinging tend, in the main, to be extrovert, uninhibited, confident and non-judgemental.
Other types of characters who are likely to gravitate towards the swingers’ lifestyle include the unconventionally sexually curious (e.g. bisexually oriented, into alternative sexual practices such as BDSM or Tantra), or outwardly heterosexual male/females who want to explore further sexual dimensions as a couple.
Character types who fair less well on the swinging scene are often individuals who are loners or in unstable relationships, have a tendency towards jealousy and sexual recrimination, or are emotionally disturbed and socially withdrawn.
Are You Suited to Swinging?
Important questions you need to ask yourself, before you get into it, too deep:
Q. Can I compartmentalise my recreational lifestyle choices?
A. Put it like this, if you’re good at putting the toys back in the box, when the game’s over and you don’t let your sexual fantasies encroach upon your day-to-day activities, chances are you can handle the swingers’ lifestyle. But, if you find it difficult to keep your different personae apart, you’re probably going to come unstuck, at some point.
Q. Am I currently in a stable and trusting relationship?
A. One of the biggest mistakes made by couples contemplating joining a swingers’ group is that it’ll revive a relationship that is clearly on the way out. It won’t; it will only hasten its demise. So, don’t even think about becoming a swinger until you’re in a stable and long-term relationship.
Q. Am I the jealous and insecure type?
A. If you can’t cope with the thought of your partner in an intimate situation with someone else, or accept that he/she appears to be enjoying the action more than they would if they were with you, think again. If however, you’re prepared for a bit of give and take and accept that, basically, ‘what’s sauce for the goose, is sauce for the gander’, you’ll probably come out smiling!
Q. Do I want to participate in the lifestyle as much as my partner?
A. Swinging will only work where both partners are equally keen. Always be honest with each other. Never justify taking part in swinging activities simply to keep your partner sweet.
In other words, the types of people who enjoy swinging are, typically, established couples in steady relationships, but who also want to experiment openly with the possibilities of a non-monogamous lifestyle.
Swingers’ Personality Traits
In practice, it’s impossible to categorise the types of characters and personalities that are best suited to the lifestyle. The swinging scene is as diverse as life itself; it represents a microcosm of society, in general.
However, certain character traits would appear to dominate the swingers’ scene. The types of characters who seem best suited to swinging tend, in the main, to be extrovert, uninhibited, confident and non-judgemental.
Other types of characters who are likely to gravitate towards the swingers’ lifestyle include the unconventionally sexually curious (e.g. bisexually oriented, into alternative sexual practices such as BDSM or Tantra), or outwardly heterosexual male/females who want to explore further sexual dimensions as a couple.
Character types who fair less well on the swinging scene are often individuals who are loners or in unstable relationships, have a tendency towards jealousy and sexual recrimination, or are emotionally disturbed and socially withdrawn.
Are You Suited to Swinging?
Important questions you need to ask yourself, before you get into it, too deep:
Q. Can I compartmentalise my recreational lifestyle choices?
A. Put it like this, if you’re good at putting the toys back in the box, when the game’s over and you don’t let your sexual fantasies encroach upon your day-to-day activities, chances are you can handle the swingers’ lifestyle. But, if you find it difficult to keep your different personae apart, you’re probably going to come unstuck, at some point.
Q. Am I currently in a stable and trusting relationship?
A. One of the biggest mistakes made by couples contemplating joining a swingers’ group is that it’ll revive a relationship that is clearly on the way out. It won’t; it will only hasten its demise. So, don’t even think about becoming a swinger until you’re in a stable and long-term relationship.
Q. Am I the jealous and insecure type?
A. If you can’t cope with the thought of your partner in an intimate situation with someone else, or accept that he/she appears to be enjoying the action more than they would if they were with you, think again. If however, you’re prepared for a bit of give and take and accept that, basically, ‘what’s sauce for the goose, is sauce for the gander’, you’ll probably come out smiling!
Q. Do I want to participate in the lifestyle as much as my partner?
A. Swinging will only work where both partners are equally keen. Always be honest with each other. Never justify taking part in swinging activities simply to keep your partner sweet.
